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Father's Day |
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Debbie |
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Jun 20, 04 - 11:29 AM |
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tigtink@comcast.net |
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This can certainly be a difficult day for survivors of childhood abuse. In my own case, my mother was my abuser, but I still carried around for a long time anger at my father for not protecting me and sadness that that I never had the kind of loving, strong guidance I needed from him. For those whose father or stepfather was the source of theei abuse, Father's Day is hardly a day of celebration.
There's a stray cat who showed up here about a week ago with four baby kittens she had kept hidden for weeks. This morning she brought two of them by to eat some of the food I put out for them. It's pretty clear from looking at the kittens that the father is probably a battered and nasty-tempered old tom cat that hangs around here (I call him Old Gray). He was here this morning trying to push his way to the food dish to steal food from the babies, but Mom and another male cat that is often with her chased Gray away so the kittens could eat. The male cat, Buddy, always seems to be helping the mother cat look after the babies, standing up to any cat who threatens them. It’s touching to see how gentle and protective he is with the little ones, even though he is apparently not their father.
We each deserved to have a Buddy in our lives as children who would lovingly care for us and protect us from those who sought to take advantage of our innocence and vulnerability. Surely, if nature can provide the kind of loving care and safety that is helping these little kittens survive, then we should have been entitled to the same when we were children. All the more reason why we need to always be gentle with ourselves and give ourselves the respect and nurturing we still need as adults.
So today, I miss my Dad, despite his many failings, and I think of how hard this day must be for those who were abused by the men who should have protected them. And to Buddy, I say “Happy Father’s Day.” Take care of those little babies because they deserve to be loved and protected. |
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